Solidus117 will say "community" and I will refer to it as a family like "band of brothers" I think there are divergent ideas on the game and the point of the game. There are two camps that stand out to me. One is a blended game play and value of the social component of the game and then some that think the game is lame and are here just for the social aspect and are just existing.
I think it's pointless to be in a group that is heading in a different direction. It only builds resentment which is counter productive for any family. You have been to a family reunion to see bitter factions. Yes it has lots of drama, but desiring drama is rather cold in my opinion.
What is left is finding the place where you fit that has the game play you desire and a group that shares a core of values that you do. This combination of game play and values leads to a close bond between each other. You might call it "elitist" but I see it more as a "Band of Brothers" (fellow sisters of course).