I see the point Bama is trying to make here and I read Jonathan's post before it got deleted, log dump and all. The way I feel about it is this:
As far as I know there are three ways to alter perception...
1) Persuasion
2) By force
3) Recreational chemicals which are illegal in most countries.
And while I feel that Jonathan may have had a valid point to make somewhere in there it was lost in the shuffle. I don't agree with P-ZI. I've been on a P-ZI list and am paying for it now with my latest re-roll. Nobody made me, it's just something I felt I needed to do because I wronged a man I've come to admire and respect who didn't deserve it( don't ask me what it was, the people who need to know do and we'll leave it at that. It's nobody else's business.). Past feelings aside, I made a choice. Everyone has a choice.
I wasn't there when Jonathan had his conversations that took place in the log dumps so I won't even bother pretending to know what exactly went on. In the end, in these situations it always comes down to "he said, she said" and people will believe whomever echos their own pre-conceived sentiment. More often than not they will stand by that sentiment, because to do otherwise "shows weakness" and an " inability to stand by your convictions" which will bring about other forms of criticism and sometimes ridicule. Deny it all you want but it's true( more often than not).
Either way it doesn't change the fact that the problem is between Jonathan and those he feels( in his perception, justifiably) wronged him, and it's very difficult to intelligently argue against that. As it is HIS perception of his own particular situation. This is a matter that I feel is best settled among those involved through civil and intelligent discourse(If such a thing is possible between both parties, if not then I really don't know what to say.).
In the end, given enough time perhaps the situation will resolve itself once cooler heads prevail. Believe it or not, it does happen. Even here. It has before and it will again if people let it.