At the Federation we generally don't undermine the soverignty of nations. In fact nations have the right to come and go as they please and we generally don't impose strict rules or anything. Nations have inaleinable rights in the Constitution. Although we do have some rules, namely the rule of don't do anything to get yourself in trouble (no wars without getting clearance from the government, don't give foreign aid to people on another alliance's hitlist) but those rules are in every alliance because they are just common sense (although some alliances allow wars against those without aliance affiliations, we don't though)
Anyway I once was a person who didn't like alliances. But once my brother's nation was attacked I realised that alliances are a neccessary evil to protect people from attacks. Take care, you have a great independent spirit