The Philosophy and Opinions of Malik Shabazz

Why that long? Most degrees are 3-4 years. A few are 5 years. None of that explains why it would take you so long to leave home. If you are lacking motivation then go and find it. One thing I have found is that everyone finds a niche in life.

Here is a little lesson that I learned a very hard way. There is no such thing as adulthood. I have an adult job, I pay taxes, I pay bills, I go to adult conventions and deal with adult things. And I feel no different to when I was ten. There was no great flash of adulthood thrust upon me. And I wasted a long time before I realised that.

I realised this in a very brutal way. I was in the passenger seat of a car. I had borrowed my parents car and it was parked about two miles away and we were driving to get it. It was a foul night, the road was soaking wet. The car skidded on a corner and ran head on at 40mph into another car. I was the only person in that collision able to make it out of the car. I didn't have a clue what to do. I had even forgotten the number to call if you wanted an ambulance (999). It was the middle of the countryside in the middle of the night. Fortunately someone arrived in less than a minute who took control of the situation and started shouting at me to do things. And I was terrified, numb, unable to think...but I had no choice because those things needed doing.

And thats basically adulthood. You aren't going to get a flash of inspiration. There will be no magic transformation. You are just going to have to do things, and the difference between adulthood and childhood is you stop having a choice.

You say you don't have the resources to leave home? I get that. Nothing wrong with that. Getting through college with low debt is a smart option. But don't say that is not exactly that...an option. You are in college which means you are smart enough to get a job. You may not want to as it would detract time from your studies, and that may be the correct choice, but it is still there for you if you want to leave home.

Now at this point I bet at least someone reading this is thinking I am talking out my arse and jobs are hard to get etc etc. Well I don't know where you live but in my age in my place 20% are unemployed. Flipside is 80% employment. And I can tell you the difference between the 20% and the 80%. The 80% know what I have written above. They know you have no choice but to do things now. Those I know without jobs are not necessarily stupid (although some are) but they are those that either think they can't do things, or are the ones still waiting for mummy to come and put things right for them because they simply are not doing things for themselves.

You're an adult now. Do things. There is nothing else to it.

There aren't to many jobs around where I live. I should have said five-six years because I don't see myself graduating within four years. But yea, I guess you're right.

There aren't to many jobs around where I live. I should have said five-six years because I don't see myself graduating within four years. But yea, I guess you're right.

If you dont have a job, there's no reason your not taking classes as much as you can. So, you know, if you ARE a full time student, taking as many credits as possible, you WILL graduate in 4 years or less.

I don't recall a time in my life when I was never in constant worry. I still hang out with friends and stay up all night to play video, strike that, computer games.

I pay bills every day (or at least every 3 days or risk getting bill-locked).

Yes, everybody has worries and responsibilities, but it doesn't mean you have to stop having fun (unless you are the sole breadwinner of a brood of squealing human-lings, I suppose)

P.S. More people are actually concerned about their own little world, rather than about others. You will find that not that many people even noticed you in the first place, even if you do silly things (unless you get in their way or comfort).

I don't recall a time in my life when I was never in constant worry. I still hang out with friends and stay up all night to play video, strike that, computer games.

I pay bills every day (or at least every 3 days or risk getting bill-locked).

Yes, everybody has worries and responsibilities, but it doesn't mean you have to stop having fun (unless you are the sole breadwinner of a brood of squealing human-lings, I suppose)

P.S. More people are actually concerned about their own little world, rather than about others. You will find that not that many people even noticed you in the first place, even if you do silly things (unless you get in their way or comfort).

You're right, I've got to find time and enjoy myself.