Mushet

I asked to join an alliance they didn't respond yet,But I need help now, she attacked for no reason, Rioga led by queen just attacked me out of nowhere, I joined a day ago I bought some units but she destroyed them, it says I can't deploy more military because I just deployed a tiny force that can't even battle because it's only a 4 percent chance, will some benevolent nation help me, why can't she pick on someone her own size