The "H" Word
Yes I think you all know what I'm talking about here.
Hypocrisy
From Wikipedia:
Hypocrisy is the state of pretending to have beliefs, opinions, virtues, feelings, qualities, or standards that one does not actually have. Hypocrisy involves the deception of others and is thus a kind of lie.
I see this word being slung around a lot whenever people do... anything. It seems like people feel this is some sort of "magic bullet" for arguments or slandering an action. The crucial point is that being a hypocrite doesn't make you wrong by default. When we communicate in such a persistent medium, it seems far too tempting to scrounge for inconsistencies instead of developing a compelling argument.
Pointing out hypocricy only proves that someone is a hypocrite. It does not by default render anything they said false, and it does not by default make their actions silly or wrong. If they're claiming to never deceive people then you might have a case, but in other situations you need to support your arguments. Many people miss this last step.
Not to mention when you pull out the "H" card immediately, you are starting an attack instead of discussion, and you lose your chance to gain any real insight from the resulting conversation. All it takes is a simple "In the past you said this, why has your stance changed?"
Someone changing their mind is not hypocricy. If a person has changed their mind and keeps no pretense of their previous opinion, this is not hypocricy. This ties in with the previous point. When you immediately attack any inconsistencies as hypocricy without allowing for an explanation you are losing your opportunity to find the truth of a situation.
I do not write this because my associates are currently the target of a lot of this sort of thing. I write this because no matter where I see this word being tossed about carlessly I see a disregard for rational discussion. I see a segment of people who don't care about winning an argument because they are right, as they can be right because they won the argument.
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